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Recently, I was describing my work to one of my great-great Alabama aunts when she interrupted me and said in her best Southern twang, “Well darling, you’re a virtual party hostess. That’s what your job is. You’re the host of the party and your job is to get all the guests to meet your very dearest and most interesting guest at the party.” As soon as she said it, I realized it was absolutely true.

And second, that no one likes a mean hostess! (Espescially in the South.)

What good publicists do whether they are working offline or online on behalf of your book, music or product is to be the best host possible while they are working the “party” for you.

Good hostesses are not:

* Mean
*Snide
*Prone to sarcasm
*Cloaked in mystery
*Pushy
*Snooty

Good hostesses are:

*Kind
*Witty
*Authentic
*Entertaining
*Persistent and Open (So everyone feels important at the party.)
*Joyful

In the Spring, when I was at Mark Twain’s house (Samuel Clemens) in Hartford, CT, my husband and I toured the house with a guide and she chatted on about how Clemens and his wife loved to entertain and how he loved to tell stories at parties they held.

Stories connect all of us on a deeper level, and a good party hostess is never without wonderful, inspiring stories. I’ve spent 14 years on the Web telling stories. If you’re willing to tell real stories and find ones that help people deeply connect to one another, then you’ll find a perennial group of folks who will want to also stay connected with you.

The world is a better place if you strive to be exactly who you are and let others be who they are. No facade, no celebrity, just people to people. And remember, always have a good story to tell.

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What’s the Real Story and is it Good?

On July 7, 2009, in Featured, by Nettie Hartsock
Mark Twain in Tesla's lab, spring 1894
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One of the things I think all of us struggle with is the challenge of creating a good story. I’ve been pondering quite a bit lately about what it takes to make a good story and how to ensure that any company, author or musician I work with on marketing or PR knows their story and can convey it in the best possible way.

Here are some tips on telling a good story:

1. Find the theme of your story and stick with it. Don’t change your story – be dug in. Be so in love with your story that everyone else wants to hear it and play a part in it too.

2. Build and expand your plot. Raise the stakes for the customer who doesn’t buy your product, or for the journalist who might not yet want to cover your story. (Don’t do this by stalking them.:>) Do it by helping them understand why you’re important to what they want to accomplish. Make them feel as though they can’t live without you.

3. Always be concerned with the listener or reader. If you’re becoming bored of the story what do you think they’re feeling? Be innovative, adventurous, creative and fearless!

4. Tell the truth. Tell the real story. What’s the point in making things up? We’re all so darn connected on the Web – we’re smart enough to ferret out exaggeration or plain old lies.

A real story is timeless and can become legendary. We stitch our lives together with all the threads of story – imagine the wonderful and historical fabric you’ll have at the end if you just keep focused.

Mark Twain:

“I notice that you use plain, simple language, short words and brief sentences. That is the way to write English – it is the modern way and the best way. Stick to it; don’t let fluff and flowers and verbosity creep in. When you catch an adjective, kill it. No, I don’t mean utterly, but kill most of them – then the rest will be valuable. They weaken when they are close together. They give strength when they are wide apart. An adjective habit, or a wordy, diffuse, flowery habit, once fastened upon a person, is as hard to get rid of as any other vice.”

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