Study finds rising narcissism among college students
Posted Tuesday, February 27, 2007
NEW YORK _ Today’s college students are more narcissistic and self-centered than their predecessors, according to a comprehensive new study by five psychologists who worry that the trend could be harmful to personal relationships and American society.
"We need to stop endlessly repeating ‘You’re special’ and having children repeat that back," said the study’s lead author, Professor Jean Twenge of San Diego State University. "Kids are self-centered enough already."
Here’s a link to the full story.
And as a Mom of a six year old son and a ten year old daughter, I find it a bit apalling that the lead author is quoted as saying, "Kids are self-centered enough already."
Kids are kids and if you look at all the messaging directed to them in the form of productizing their lives – that would be a more interesting study then having your call to action from the study be, "Stop endlessly repeating "you’re special." The way Professor Twenge describes it sounds a bit more like brainwashing than good kid and parental interaction.
The harmful trend in studies is how more and more studies are based on the "result" the "study leaders" already have in mind that they want to attain.
How can I relate that to PR? Good question Watson! Here’s how:
Journalists are studying your company – many of them already have their "resultant" story in mind even as they are interviewing you or coming (god forbid) to your hour long briefing via the Internet. So the key is to study the journalists and what they write and be prepared to respond to any "hooks" they might drop in the conversation to make "their" story turn out better. Frankly, it shows some respect to journalists too if you take the time to read what they write prior to an interview. Most of them follow some sort of style and you can learn how to best be responsive to what they ask, by "studying" old stories they’ve written.
And I guess if you really wanted to make them feel good you could keep repeating to them "You’re special" and ask if they’ll repeat that back to you during the interview. (that’s a joke folks.:>)
As if you didn’t know that Dove’s latest ad Campaign for Real Beauty is the single most intelligent campaign in the world…the commercial they ran during the Oscars last night proves it once again.
And it was so darn good that even Laurie Peterson – Editor of MediaPost just put a link to it on her comment "Check out the winning consumer-generated ad for Dove Cream Oil. Tagline: "What’s better than knowing you’re beautiful, even when no one is looking." We like it. – More.."
And so do I and so do my other three sisters and my Mom and my mother-in-law and just about eight of the women out of the twelve in my bunko group!
Dove scores big with us! Women are smart and Dove is smarter! And if you’re still curious why they’re smarter – then hit this link , a good article on Dove at MarketingProfs by Marti Barletta.
Here’s the bottom line – while all these advertising gurus are spinning their Segways into circles around their neatly art-decoed cubicles, and between their double latte Starbuck’s breaks, they often forget that people (women included) just want you to understand them and deliver what they desire. Whether it be in commercials, advertising, publicity, news stories or case studies, people want to feel as though you (the pitcher) get them (home base).
Pitch straight and true every time and you’ll be surprised at what home runs it will bring you! You’ll see your targets rounding those bases faster than you can say "foul ball."
If you haven’t yet registered your blog at Outpost-Earth, I would urge you to take a look at it and join the blogging minions who are registered there. It’s quite an eclectic group of bloggers and it’s growing by "earthly" leaps and bounds on a daily basis! I’m registered and so are many other bloggers. No feed is the same at Outpost Earth so it makes for quite an interesting and diverse representation of worldwide blogging!
For folks who really want to get their blog exposed, this is an ideal way to join a directory that is dynamic, thriving and innovative. The design itself of the site is very cool and the registration process takes less than two minutes and it’s FREE!
Here’s a list of the 100 most often mispronounced words. I love this list! Here are a few of the sample words from the list and I encourage you to hit the full link as well.
| perogative | prerogative | Even in dialects where [r] does not always trade places with the preceding vowel (as the Texan pronunciations “differnce,” “vetern,” etc.), the [r] in this prefix often gets switched. |
| perscription | prescription | Same as above. It is possible that we simply confuse “pre-” and “per-” since both are legitimate prefixes. |
| persnickety | pernickety | You may think us too pernickety to even mention this one. It is a Scottish nonce word to which U.S. speakers have added a spurious [s]. |
| preemptory | peremptory | The old pre-/per- problem. Do not confuse this word with “preemptive;” the prefix here is per-. |
| prespire | perspire | “Per-” has become such a regular mispronunciation of “pre-,” many people now correct themselves where they don’t need to. |
| plute | pollute | This one, like “plice” [police], spose [suppose], and others, commonly result from rapid speech syncope, the loss of unaccented vowels. Just be sure you pronounce the vowel when you are speaking slowly. Read here for more on the problem. |
| (probly, prolly) | probably | Haplology is the dropping of one of two identical syllables such as the [ob] and [ab] in this word, usually the result of fast speech. Slow down and pronounce the whole word for maximum clarity and to reduce your chances of misspelling the word. |
| pronounciation | pronunciation | Just as “misspelling” is among the most commonly misspelled words, “pronunciation” is among the most commonly mispronounced words. Fitting, no? |
One of my personal heroes, Mahatma Gandhi said, "Be the change you want to see in the world."
I’ve been thinking about this quote alot lately, it was often quoted to me by my Mom (who is 70 years old and still a reading teacher at a economically-challenged high school) and really is a living example of this statement.
And tonight, as I’m up in the middle of the night working and my husband and amazing two children are sleeping, I think this statement could also be applied to the blogging world as well.
Blogs are a powerful way to effect and engender change – don’t miss the opportunity you have for communicating deeply to the world.
So to all of you bloggers, no matter what your blog’s goals, I would urge you to truly, "Blog the change you want to see in the world."
As a veteran tech journalist and a PR marathoner, I’m happy to see posts that concisely tell how best to pitch to journalists or magazines.
I’m also happy to note that as a writer I still get pitches from folks for possible stories to write as well for leading pubs, and so I’m still on both sides of the “pitching and receiving” and it’s really good to mind some reasonable rules when it comes to pitching yourself, your clients or a possible story.
Read them and pitch.
Brian Solis writes a very compelling blog on commenting on blogs and what is going on in that realm on the PR side. It’s a must read.
What’s interesting to me on the opposite side as well is that there are bloggers who still don’t get the "conversation" part of blogging. For instance if you’re going to post a question that engenders comments and that is your goal, then the last thing you want to do at the end is wrap up those comments with a post on how you already knew the "correct" answer to the question and all the other commenters have it wrong.
This is not called conversation. And blogs aren’t classrooms with a teacher at the lecturn – soley spouting off from his/her knowledge base with no room for discussion. Let me ammend that by saying good blogs are not classrooms with a teacher at the lecturn.
To really get readers and those comments on your blog you have to be willing to also understand and embrace that it’s ok for others to disagree with you and it’s ok to have an open discussion on a topic and not make it about being right.
A really good blog is very conversational. And how many of us really enjoy conversations that end with "That’s why I’m right." How many of us return to converse with someone who "knows everything?"
It’s much more engaging and frankly, more edifying if you’re willing to put yourself out there in the midst of the conversation – not always as the leader. And actually it can be a very powerful way to learn new things from other bloggers that you might not otherwise learn.
As a writer it’s important to know and understand how lead generation works and what makes it successful. I’m a great fan of Brian Carroll and his work and blog about sales and lead generation.
I’m also looking forward to Jim Logan’s series on lead generation on his blog which started yesterday.
If you’re writing in B2B or the marketing world in general, you need to stay aware of the best lead generation tactics and how they are best employed.
I’m late in posting! But don’t miss this conference!
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Community, Friday, May 11, 2007, 6:00 PM – 9:00 PM
Speakers, Saturday, May 12, 2007, 8:00 AM – 4:30 PM
There will be interactive presentations on publishing, design and branding, tools, analytics, social networking, marketing, and coaching — all from the perspectives of the relationship blogger and the audience. Only 250 attendees will be accepted.
One of the things I think all of us struggle with is the challenge of creating a good story. I’ve been pondering quite a bit lately about what it takes to make a good story and how to ensure that any company, author or musician I work with on marketing or PR knows their story and can convey it in the best possible way.
Here are some tips on telling a good story:
1. Find the theme of your story and stick with it. Don’t change your story – be dug in. Be so dug into your story and in love with your story that everyone else wants to play a part in it too.
2. Build and expand your plot. Raise the stakes for the customer who doesn’t buy your product, or for the journalist who might not yet want to cover your story. (Don’t do this by stalking them.:>) Do it by helping them understand why you’re important to what they want to accomplish. Make them feel as though they can’t live without you.
3. Always be concerned with the listener or reader. If you’re becoming bored of the story what do you think they’re feeling? Be innovative, adventurous, creative and fearless!
4. Tell the truth. Tell the real story. What’s the point in making things up? We’re all so darn connected on the Web – we’re smart enough to ferret out exaggeration or plain old lies.
A real story is timeless and can become legendary. We stitch our lives together with all the threads of story – imagine the wonderful and historical fabric you’ll have at the end if you just keep focused.
"I notice that you use plain, simple language, short words and brief sentences. That is the way to write English – it is the modern way and the best way. Stick to it; don’t let fluff and flowers and verbosity creep in. When you catch an adjective, kill it. No, I don’t mean utterly, but kill most of them – then the rest will be valuable. They weaken when they are close together. They give strength when they are wide apart. An adjective habit, or a wordy, diffuse, flowery habit, once fastened upon a person, is as hard to get rid of as any other vice."
Tom Chandler has one of the best posts I’ve read on negotiating on writing gigs. And this is an excellent writing blog to read. Now for a polite southern gal the title seemed a bit racey, but after one Mint Julip all was good! Go and read it!








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